Posted on 05 December 2009.
By Brittany Cloud
I’ve long been interested in the process of sorting through complex ideas, critically examining them, and presenting a position on them clearly. Wendy McElroy’s book, The Reasonable Woman: A Guide to Intellectual Survival is arguably a definitive treatise on how to do just that. I first stumbled on the book while doing a self-study on libertarian feminism, specifically individualist feminism.
As a side note, I already respected McElroy, because I knew of her as an accomplished research fellow at The Independent Institute, founder of iFeminists.com, and manager of website, WendyMcElroy.com.
Even in the preface I was taken aback by how clearly McElroy lays out her ideas and examples. She is spot on regarding many differences in the way the female mind approaches ideas and how women are stereotypically misunderstood. She opens with an example of how women, more often than men, will burst into tears during a frustrating conversation. Men, in contrast, are more likely to get into bar fights. She asserts the destructiveness of these conditioned behaviors and suggests how we can unlearn them.
McElroy’s use of the terms “intellectual survival” and “reasonable” in the book’s title immediately intrigued me. Why should women need a compelling reason to “survive intellectually”? And aren’t we already “reasonable?” McElroy doesn’t use the term “intellectual” in the elite ivory tower sense. By “intellectual” she means to express that every woman is not only fully capable, but has a profound duty to maintain reasonableness in all aspects of life. While she indeed gives an interesting critique of the relationship of emotion to reason, her underlying defense for emphasizing the value of reason is simple -- so simple it shattered many of my previous perspectives on female reasonableness.
“Reason” is the tool we use in seeking the truth of things. “Truth” is merely what’s left after careful examination of evidence, and after thoughtfully, and civilly entertaining certain arguments on a subject. We care about being “reasonable” because we care about how ideas are justified. Adequate justification requires careful analysis of the logical connections between the ideas we are thinking about. Caring about reason is so self-evident, that to question it, in McElroy’s words, is like asking, “Why should I value my right arm?” Reason should be valued “because you should value being as alive and aware as possible. (Ch 1, p. 29, emphasis mine).”
Through vivid examples and rigorous psychological analysis, Reasonable Woman strikes at the core of what barriers we face today, especially the uniquely female ones, and how to respond successfully to those barriers. She examines common ideas such as:
- Women should not compete with men
- Women become irrational when menstruating
- Women do not argue fairly
- Women – not men – must balance career and family
- A wife should accommodate her husband’s job transfer
- Women are bad at math
- Women gossip; men discuss
- A clean house is the woman’s responsibility: a good living is the man’s
While she provides effective solutions to combating these barriers through the application of reason and logic, Reasonable Woman is not limited to practical advice for women only. Many of the book’s practical tenets are applicable to men as well. After all, individualist feminism is not about stereotypical feminist victimization and male marginalization. Notable writer, Chris Matthew Sciabarra, author of Ayn Rand: The Russian Radical positively reviewed McElroy’s book, stating:
Though McElroy’s book is a benevolent declaration of intellectual independence for women, it is chock-full of humane strategies and useful techniques for everyone. A manual and resource guide for the critical mind, it stands as a deeply personal and practical testament to efficient thinking.
Reasonable Woman provides an excellent starting ground for the analysis of ideas and understanding the female mind. The ladies at LOLA and anyone interested in liberty can greatly benefit from her ideas. Whether gaining the confidence to apply these ideas effectively in public, creating an organization from your own unique ideas to help the cause of liberty, building courage to stand up to authorities through activism, becoming a better writer, or merely learning how to assess the multitude of information out there more effectively, McElroy offers insight and support for the individual-minded.
As a fellow LOLA member, I have no doubt about the relevance of Reasonable Woman to my place in the liberty movement. I’d highly recommend it to all those interested in the value of ideas, specifically for its application to liberty-minded women. What's more, her book offers insight for everyone, not just scholars -- activists, writers, public leaders, homemakers, and careerists alike can draw valuable insights from within its pages.